Find Your Why
Finding your WHY is important for you to hook your motivation and ignite your intention to start your Rightsizing journey. ‘All knowledge meets an end at the question … Why?’, said American author and philosopher Criss Jami. If we know WHY we are doing something this will allow us to fully emerge ourselves in all we do. Drilling down through our WHYs will give us a clear, defined, specific outcome, which allows you to discover what your emotional outcome is. If we know what is in our hearts of hearts, or what our true emotional needs are, we will be able to provide ourselves with a new template to live our lives through. We will achieve our vision to live better with our belongings by identifying the emotional benefits we will experience from changing our physical space. Knowing your WHY is HOW we are successful but also it assists us in WHAT we maintain as lasting successful outcomes.
If we think back to our kitchen example, the why behind this could pathway like this:
Why am I starting in my kitchen? > I am choosing to start in my kitchen because I am frustrated as it is so untidy. Why is this frustrating? > Because I am unable to find items instantly. Why is it frustrating when you cannot find things? > Because I need to rebuy items I cannot locate. Why is this a problem? > It costs me extra money. Why would rightsizing solve this for you? > It will allow me to see all my utensils and I could avoid spending extra dollars on repurchasing. Why will this be beneficial to you? > Because I will have more time and money. Why is this important? > Because I will now be able spend both in other areas of my life. Why will this be valuable to you? > Because I will be happier as my quality of life will have improved.
This shows how asking ourselves WHY until we have reached our emotional outcome will allow us to verbalise our specific of our own WHY for our project.
A goal is a well-defined vision of what your project is about. Your goal should set a very clear intention about what it is you wish the project to achieve. French aristocrat and poet Antoine de Saint-Exupéry said, ‘A goal without a plan is just a wish.’ A wish may well be something you can aspire to but without creating a well-thought-out plan to ‘call it to action’, it may never amount to anything more than just a dreamy, distant wish. In Rightsizing, goal setting is how we identify what it is we want to successfully achieve for the project we have chosen. A goal will motivate you into completion of smaller, broken-down tasks that you will set for yourself.
The psychological cognitive perspective shows that goal setting allows for conscious goals to regulate and enhance our performance on work tasks for increased motivation. New goals will supersede old goals if these have fallen short to past expectations. When planning your goals make sure that they are achievable, measurable and you are committed to reaching them. If you feel that the goal you have set will be attainable, you will be motivated to achieve it. Allow your goal to be easily measured so you can feel the power behind your accomplishments. When you are committed to really achieving your goal the time you invest to reach your outcome will not be demanding. You will find your energy is recharging you to assist you in persevering to the finishing line. Formulating your own statement of ‘why’ you are pursuing this project, you will be able to focus your attention on the ‘how’ you will use this space better. Knowing ‘what’ will be gained from the Rightsize process will further assist with your momentum. My clients Val and Peter had this to say about Rightsize goal setting:
Val: ‘Once we had used the “pausing” tools we knew it was the front lounge room we needed to start with. Peter and I both had very different plans for what the end goal would be for this space.’ Peter: ‘This is an understatement! I wanted somewhere for my fishing rods to be stored and displayed and Val wanted to use it for a “good room” to sit with visitors.’ Val: ‘Working together allowed us to create a shared goal of how and what to use this space for.’
I can confirm that Val and Peter now use this space as ‘their living room’; they spend time in here together in the evenings to watch TV and relax. And … they each got a wall for display: fishing memorabilia on one wall and Val’s artwork on the other!
This is a great example of how collaboration when goal setting can bring people together through a shared vision. This room now adds to the value of their lives as they can showcase their legacy objects and spend time together in a space that they are proud of. Your vision will be how you feel about the space and the benefit it will provide you once your project is complete.
Projects that we embark upon will be even more successful if we prioritise our tasks. A priority is how much time we attribute to each of the components involved in completing a task we are engaged with. Priority-setting is simply the breaking down of your project into sequential and manageable steps. When priorities are clearly mapped they enable our focus and offer achievable outcomes. As your project starts to materialise, setting in place the order of priorities becomes a stepped structure that you can customise your time around. Progressively you will be able to see which steps are to be taken first and what is the natural order to complete them in. This allows you to track the progress of your project as you tick off the assigned tasks. The benefit of applying this type of planning is that you will achieve the management of your time efficiently. Priorities should incorporate some sort of flexibility. Life can get in the way of even the best-laid plans, so look at the opportunities when this happens and stay focused on your overall vision.
The main things to consider when setting priorities are the following points:
- Concentrate on the most important things first—When we are Rightsizing, we look at the items we know we would like to KEEP before addressing the items we would like to discard.
- Know what you do well—Focus on what you do best and ask for a helping hand with those things that may be more challenging. For example, moving heavy items or listing items for sale online.
- Be realistic in your planning process—Your ultimate perfect Rightsize outcome will take time to complete. Set yourself reasonable goals that promote success within you own capabilities.