Keep

Our KEEP items are our belongings that we identify with and they will stay in our homes and lives. Marie Kondo, the author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and more recent host of her Netflix show Tidying Up, uses the term ‘Spark Joy’ to describe objects to be kept. Her simple method recommends that you should only keep the items that give you the ‘spark joy’ feeling. Things that we love, find useful and use often will be a part of our keep items.

My first Rightsizing project started in December 1998 and took till June 2000 to complete so we could sell the property. My husband said to me, ‘You can keep anything you like.’ This is how I started by separating all the items that I wanted to KEEP. This project took eighteen months to Rightsize his belongings and is an ongoing curation process. As we minimised these belongings we felt stronger within ourselves but also within our own relationship. Together we had the courage to face this epic task one day at a time, box by box, carload by carload. Every little bit contributed to the solving of this wicked problem. We still believe today that if we survived emptying that shed we could just about survive anything! So far so good, still happily married after fifteen years and yes, we still own a lot less than at this time in our lives! When we KEEP items that we identify with and that provide us with the most happiness, joy, usefulness and value we will quickly be able to determine those items that do not align with these statements of acceptance.

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Object Classification

Object Classification is the category we assign an item from a list of ten headings. When we have an understanding of what an object means to us and we know its classification we can make choices relating to ‘keeping or not keeping’ this object in our lives.

The ten Object Classifications are the following headings: Essential, Luxury, Significant, Given, Sentimental, Heirloom, Recreational, Seasonal, Legacy and Maybe. If we know what something means to us we are better able to understand why we need to keep it. It gives us a representation of what are the most valuable things we own. The Rightsizing Rule for this process is if an object is placed into two or more classifications it will be immediately become a ‘keep item’. You will appreciate this classification process when we come to our Rightsizing solutions in Chapter 11. We will be able to use the classification headings as a way to embrace our project strategies.

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The Rightsizing Ratio

When Rightsizing your life the concept of clutter management has traditionally been one of randomness and in some cases chaotic in its approach. We use the Rightsizing Ratio to anchor our thinking into segments that will assist in creating order to this process. The Rightsizing Ratio encases our project in a three-tier structure, where each of these segments are in proportion to the amount of effort needed to support each action. When Rightsizing our WHY is at the centre of all we do. Although its segment is smaller it is the core of our intention. Adopting this decision-making technique enables us to proceed to the next layer, our HOW. Exploring the HOW will enable us to implement our actions and will reduce the stress of our WHAT. This is WHAT we will keep and WHAT objects we will let go, which is the vastest segment of the Rightsizing Ratio.

 

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Planning

Planning is an important component when beginning any project. Creating specific, clearly defined goals will guarantee that you will heighten your momentum, motivation and focus. By visualising your best outcome, you will be able to physically recreate this goal in your home. Be ‘action’ focused and proud of the commitment you have made to address the clutter in your life. When we PLAN for obstacles that may cause distraction we will be able to anticipate and prevent these from extinguishing our attentiveness. Rightsizing is outcome-focused. Most of all believe you CAN and success will follow. Henry Ford said this about self-belief: ‘Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right’. When Rightsizing, projecting this self- belief means you are already halfway there to reclaiming your space!

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Wants

As with needs our wants also hold a very personal measure of value. A large part of our modern lives are preoccupied with the ‘wanting of things’. This is largely due to extensive marketing campaigns from the advertising industry. They profit from our unending quest for happiness and social acceptance. They elude us into believing that we are somewhat inadequate if we do not engage in purchasing their products. In Roald Dahl’s 1971 film adaptation of his best-selling book, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, character Veruca Salt famously exclaims, ‘I want one. I want a golden goose!’ This precocious statement of ‘want’ shows the lust of instant gratification. In this moment of desire, there is minimal thought for the long-term impact such a purchase may have on the owner, or in this case on the goose!

Having or wanting is a concept of ownership. This abyss of wanting more is a shallow satisfaction that has us caught up in a cycle of replacement and acquisition. In our everyday lives, we have access to purchase many objects from a variety of sources. Anything you could possibly ever want is available from shopping complexes and websites. When Rightsizing, the question of ‘what do we want?’ will repeatedly be brought to the surface. ‘What we want’ will impact on the amount of objects that we decide to keep in our homes. ‘What we want’ will aid and hinder our projects as we begin to identify our needs in relation to how much space we have leftover to keep our wants. Before you buy something, to find out if it is a ‘need’ or simply a ‘want’, see how you feel about it before you make your purchase. If it’s from a store hold it in your hands and contemplate what value this will add and for how long; will it continue to do so? Alternatively, if it is an online purchase really think about this object before you frivolously click ‘add to cart’. Focus deeply on this object to see if it’s not just a token to symbolise something that may be missing from you emotionally or if it is just simply the vanity of owning the object in question.

The psychological ramifications of always wanting to own more things is addictive and leaves us increasingly empty as this compulsive dependency of ‘wanting’ takes over. As we saw in Chapter 1, having more belongings does not lead to an increased level of happiness. Looking for this fulfilment outside of ourselves will leave us with a lot of objects to maintain, look for and be responsible for in the long run. When we are in the PAUSE stage contemplating our wants it is important, to be honest with yourself about your self-worth in relation to the things you own. Begin to address your own feelings on how your possessions make you feel. Just because you own something are you more likely to feel either superior and important or inferior in the presence of others? Do you feel resentful or less worthy because you do not own something that someone else has? By investigating our relationship with our wants it will be easier to discard the excess in our lives.

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